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Welcome to the Holy Trinity Marriage Page This page includes links to
the main Church of England website where you can view the text of the current
marriage service (right) together with advice and tips about different
aspects of planning your wedding (below left), including help with choosing
hymns and readings for the service and information about how to book a
wedding in church. For further help or information
please phone the church office on 01737 766604 or email
us. ·
What do Christians believe
about marriage? ·
What
is the difference between marriage and living together? · Who can get married at Holy Trinity? ·
How
do I book a wedding or find out more? ·
What
hymns can we have at our wedding? ·
What music can we have at our wedding? ·
What
readings can we have at our wedding? ·
How
much does a wedding in church cost? Frequently
Asked Questions
What do
Christians believe about marriage? Christians believe that
marriage is a special relationship created by God. It involves a public
commitment to a lifelong relationship of faithfulness and love between
a man and a woman. This commitment is spelled out in the vows that the couple
make to each other in the marriage service. Christians believe that
marriage with its commitment to permanence offers the degree of stability and
security that we all need in relationships and that the children of those
relationships also need. What is
the difference between marriage and living together? Marriage
is based on a public declaration of lifelong commitment between a man and a
woman. With living together there may or may not be a commitment for life and
usually the commitment has not been expressed publicly. Who can
get married at Holy Trinity? For a
couple to get married at Holy Trinity normally one person must either live in
the parish or be on the church electoral roll. (To view
the parish map, please click here.) In some cases others who have a
strong link with the church, but do not live in the parish, are able to obtain
a special license from the archbishop to marry at Holy Trinity. Where one person has been married
before and the previous partner is still alive normally a Service of Prayer & Dedication after
a Civil Marriage is offered, though in exceptional circumstances a full
church wedding may be possible under new Church of England guidelines. How do I
book a wedding or find out more? Please
phone the church office on 01737 766604 any weekday morning or email
us. What
hymns can we have at our wedding? There is a wide choice of
possible hymns. Our organist will be happy to advise. Some of the most
popular weddings hymns are listed below:
Some well-known hymn tunes are included in the links below: Wedding Music Click on the
links to hear some well known pieces of wedding music
For further information about wedding
hymns and music see the appropriate section on the 2-in-2- 1 website. |
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The Marriage Service Here
we have some links to the main Church of England website. A Service of Prayer and Dedication after a Civil
Marriage A service in church
to be used after a wedding in a registry office – either on the day of
the wedding or at a later date A Thanksgiving for Marriage A
suggestion for a service that can be used in thanksgiving for a special
wedding anniversary eg a silver, ruby or golden wedding or on some other
occasion when a couple desire to give thanks for the marriage The Introduction to the Marriage Service
This introduction sets out
the church’s understanding of marriage that is reflected in the marriage
service. To download your own copy of
the marriage service in rtf format (eg for inclusion in an order of
service) please click here . Useful
websites Some other useful sites with information about marriages
and weddings include A comprehensive site with all you ever wanted to know about
weddings & marriage Useful site for marriage & family support |
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What readings can we have at our wedding? They are a range of possible bible readings. Some of the
most popular are printed below: Genesis
1.26-28
Then God
said, ‘Let us make humankind in our image, according to our likeness; and let
them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the air,
and over the cattle, and over all the wild animals of the earth, and over
every creeping thing that creeps upon the earth.’ So God
created humankind in his image, God blessed
them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and
subdue it; and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of
the air and over every living thing that moves upon the earth.’ Song of
Solomon 2.10-13; 8.6,7
My beloved
speaks and says to me: Set me as a
seal upon your heart, Jeremiah 31.31-34
The days
are surely coming, says the Lord, when I will make a new covenant with the
house of Romans
8.31-35,37-39
What then
are we to say about these things? If God is for us, who is against us? He who
did not withhold his own Son, but gave him up for all of us, will he not with
him also give us everything else? Who will bring any charge against God’s
elect? It is God who justifies. Who is to condemn? It is Christ Jesus, who
died, yes, who was raised, who is at the right hand of God, who indeed
intercedes for us. Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Will
hardship, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or
sword? No, in all
these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am
convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things
present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything
else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ
Jesus our Lord. Romans
12.1,2,9-13
I appeal to
you therefore, brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to present your
bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your
spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by
the renewing of your minds, so that you may discern what is the will of God -
what is good and acceptable and perfect. Let love be
genuine; hate what is evil, hold fast to what is good; love one another with
mutual affection; outdo one another in showing honour. Do not lag in zeal, be
ardent in spirit, serve the Lord. Rejoice in hope, be patient in suffering,
persevere in prayer. Contribute to the needs of the saints; extend
hospitality to strangers. 1
Corinthians 13
If I speak
in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy
gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all
mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove
mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away all my
possessions, and if I hand over my body so that I may boast, but do not have
love, I gain nothing. Love is
patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude.
It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does
not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things,
believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.
But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will
cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. For we know only in part,
and we prophesy only in part; but when the complete comes, the partial will
come to an end. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a
child, I reasoned like a child; when I became an adult, I put an end to
childish ways. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then we will see face
to face. Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been
fully known. And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the
greatest of these is love. Ephesians
3.14-end
I bow my
knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth takes
its name. I pray that, according to the riches of his glory, he may grant
that you may be strengthened in your inner being with power through his
Spirit, and that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith, as you are
being rooted and grounded in love. I pray that you may have the power to
comprehend, with all the saints, what is the breadth and length and height
and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, so that
you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to him
who by the power at work within us is able to accomplish abundantly far more
than all we can ask or imagine, to him be glory in the church and in Christ
Jesus to all generations, for ever and ever. Amen. Ephesians
5.21-end
Be subject
to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, be
subject to your husbands as you are to the Lord. For the husband is the head
of the wife just as Christ is the head of the church, the body of which he is
the Saviour. Just as the church is subject to Christ, so also wives ought to
be, in everything, to their husbands. Husbands,
love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
in order to make her holy by cleansing her with the washing of water by the
word, so as to present the church to himself in splendour, without a spot or
wrinkle or anything of the kind - yes, so that she may be holy and without
blemish. In the same way, husbands should love their wives as they do their
own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hates his
own body, but he nourishes and tenderly cares for it, just as Christ does for
the church, because we are members of his body. ‘For this reason a man will
leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will
become one flesh.’ This is a great mystery, and I am applying it to Christ
and the church. Each of you, however, should love his wife as himself, and a
wife should respect her husband. Philippians
4.4-9
Rejoice in
the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice. Let your gentleness be known to
everyone. The Lord is near. Do not worry about anything, but in everything by
prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to
God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your
hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally,
beloved, whatever is true, whatever is honourable, whatever is just, whatever
is pure, whatever is pleasing, whatever is commendable, if there is any
excellence and if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these
things. Keep on doing the things that you have learned and received and heard
and seen in me, and the God of peace will be with you. Colossians
3.12-17
As God’s
chosen ones, holy and beloved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness,
humility, meekness, and patience. Bear with one another and, if anyone has a
complaint against another, forgive each other; just as the Lord has forgiven
you, so you also must forgive. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which
binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ
rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in the one body. And be
thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly; teach and admonish one
another in all wisdom; and with gratitude in your hearts sing psalms, hymns,
and spiritual songs to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do
everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father
through him. 1 John
3.18-end
Little
children, let us love, not in word or speech, but in truth and action. And by
this we will know that we are from the truth and will reassure our hearts
before him whenever our hearts condemn us; for God is greater than our
hearts, and he knows everything. Beloved, if our hearts do not condemn us, we
have boldness before God; and we receive from him whatever we ask, because we
obey his commandments and do what pleases him. And this is
his commandment, that we should believe in the name of his Son Jesus Christ
and love one another, just as he has commanded us. All who obey his
commandments abide in him, and he abides in them. And by this we know that he
abides in us, by the Spirit that he has given us. 1 John
4.7-12
Beloved,
let us love one another, because love is from God; everyone who loves is born
of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, for God is
love. God’s love was revealed among us in this way: God sent his only Son
into the world so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that
we loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the atoning
sacrifice for our sins. Beloved, since God loved us so much, we also ought to
love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God lives
in us, and his love is perfected in us. Matthew
5.1-10
When Jesus
saw the crowds, he went up the mountain; and after he sat down, his disciples
came to him. Then he began to speak, and taught them, saying: ‘Blessed
are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew
7.21,24-end
Jesus said,
‘Not everyone who says to me, “Lord, Lord”, will enter the kingdom of heaven,
but only one who does the will of my Father in heaven. ‘Everyone
then who hears these words of mine and acts on them will be like a wise man
who built his house on rock. The rain fell, the floods came, and the winds
blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded
on rock. And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not act on them
will be like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain fell, and
the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell
- and great was its fall!’ Now when
Jesus had finished saying these things, the crowds were astounded at his
teaching, for he taught them as one having authority, and not as their
scribes. Mark 10.6-9,13-16
Jesus said,
‘From the beginning of creation, “God made them male and female.” “For this
reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and
the two shall become one flesh.” So they are no longer two, but one flesh.
Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.’ People were
bringing little children to him in order that he might touch them; and the
disciples spoke sternly to them. But when Jesus saw this, he was indignant
and said to them, ‘Let the little children come to me; do not stop them; for
it is to such as these that the John
2.1-11
On the
third day there was a wedding in Cana of Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was
there. Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding. When the
wine gave out, the mother of Jesus said to him, ‘They have no wine.’ And
Jesus said to her, ‘Woman, what concern is that to you and to me? My hour has
not yet come.’ His mother said to the servants, ‘Do whatever he tells you.’
Now standing there were six stone water-jars for the Jewish rites of
purification, each holding twenty or thirty gallons. Jesus said to them,
‘Fill the jars with water.’ And they filled them up to the brim. He said to
them, ‘Now draw some out, and take it to the chief steward.’ So they took it.
When the steward tasted the water that had become wine, and did not know
where it came from (though the servants who had drawn the water knew), the
steward called the bridegroom and said to him, ‘Everyone serves the good wine
first, and then the inferior wine after the guests have become drunk. But you
have kept the good wine until now.’ Jesus did this, the first of his signs,
in Cana of Galilee, and revealed his glory; and his disciples believed in
him. John
15.1-8
Jesus said
to his disciples: ‘I am the true vine, and my Father is the vinegrower. He removes
every branch in me that bears no fruit. Every branch that bears fruit he
prunes to make it bear more fruit. You have already been cleansed by the word
that I have spoken to you. Abide in me as I abide in you. Just as the branch
cannot bear fruit by itself unless it abides in the vine, neither can you
unless you abide in me. I am the vine, you are the branches. Those who abide
in me and I in them bear much fruit, because apart from me you can do
nothing. Whoever does not abide in me is thrown away like a branch and
withers; such branches are gathered, thrown into the fire, and burned. If you
abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask for whatever you wish, and it
will be done for you. My Father is glorified by this, that you bear much
fruit and become my disciples.’ John
15.9-17
Jesus said
to his disciples: ‘As the Father has loved me, so I have loved you; abide in
my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have
kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. I have said these things
to you so that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be complete. This is my
commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. No one has
greater love than this, to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my
friends if you do what I command you. I do not call you servants any longer,
because the servant does not know what the master is doing; but I have called
you friends, because I have made known to you everything that I have heard
from my Father. You did not choose me but I chose you. And I appointed you to
go and bear fruit, fruit that will last, so that the Father will give you
whatever you ask him in my name. I am giving you these commands so that you
may love one another.’ |
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